Julia, one of our readers, expressed her exhaustion from having to cook separate dairy-free meals for her stepchildren. The story took an unexpected turn when she accidentally gave them a cake made with milk, leading to shocking revelations. Seeking advice, she reached out to us.
Here’s what she shared
Hi,
I’m facing a difficult situation with my husband’s two children from his previous marriage. Whenever they stay with us, their mother provides me with an extensive list of dietary restrictions. She insists they only consume organic food and strictly avoid dairy due to alleged lactose intolerance. This demands a lot of time and effort, and I find myself cooking two sets of meals since my own children eat regular food.
During one of their visits, I accidentally served them a cake that contained milk. Horrified, I immediately considered calling a doctor. To my surprise, nothing happened. They simply enjoyed the cake and commented on its delicious taste. I anxiously observed for any reaction, but there was none.
This experience made me realize that my husband’s ex-wife might be complicating things deliberately. Feeling frustrated, I made a decision to stop preparing separate meals for my stepchildren. I began serving them the same food as my own kids, which included dairy products. The children ate heartily, enjoyed their meals, and displayed no signs of discomfort.
However, things took a turn when my youngest stepson, a four-year-old, innocently mentioned to his mother that he had milk at our house. She quickly understood that I was not adhering to her dietary instructions and confronted me angrily.
Attempting to explain myself, I told her that the extra cooking was both time-consuming and costly without real benefit. I hoped she would understand, but she was furious and accused me of endangering her children’s health. This led to a significant family conflict. My husband found himself in the midst of it, trying to mediate while also feeling upset that I hadn’t discussed my decision with him first.
Now, I find myself in a dilemma. I don’t want to cause unnecessary drama, but I also don’t want to be manipulated into something unreasonable. I’m at a loss and would greatly appreciate any advice.
Sincerely, Julia
