A woman in her 30s recently sought advice from the Reddit community after a heated argument with her fiancé over financial matters left her questioning the dynamics of their relationship. The couple had been together for five years and had gotten engaged, with plans to marry in 2025. However, their disagreement began when the woman received a substantial inheritance following her grandmother’s passing.
The woman, known as Original Poster (OP), shared her experience on Reddit’s “Am I The A*****e” thread. She explained that her grandmother and grandfather had been financially successful throughout their lives, and as a result, she was left with a “hugely generous” sum of money. When she informed her fiancé about it, he became overly excited and started discussing how he would use the money to pay off his credit card and go on a boys’ holiday with his friends.
Feeling taken aback by her fiancé’s reaction, the woman confronted him, reminding him that the money was hers and not meant for his personal expenses. This led to a heated argument, with the fiancé asserting that once they were married, her finances would become his burden and any money she received would also belong to him. Feeling disrespected and hurt, the woman decided to leave the house and stay with a friend.
After posting her story on Reddit, the woman received a flood of support and empathy from fellow users. Many advised her to reconsider marrying someone who exhibited such entitlement and disregard for her financial autonomy. They pointed out that his assumption of having a right to her inheritance and his angry outburst were red flags indicating potential narcissistic behavior.
In light of the situation, the woman now contemplates what her next steps should be. Should she proceed with the wedding and hope for a change in her fiancé’s behavior? Or should she take the advice of the Reddit community and reevaluate whether this relationship is truly healthy and supportive?
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