A woman recently shared her frustrating experience on Reddit, where her fiancé demanded that she pay for his meals and the meals of his friends. The reason? She had received a 30% raise, making more money than him.
The woman explained that they don’t share finances, as her fiancé had requested. However, ever since her salary increase, he had been using it as an excuse to make her pay for their outings. Whenever she questioned his expectations, he would dismissively respond with “the 30%.”
The situation had escalated to the point where he had tricked her into paying for meals in the past. She confessed that she was too nice to say no and hated confrontation, especially in public places. But this time, she had made it clear from the beginning that she wouldn’t be paying for their dinner.
Yet, during the meal, her fiancé still whispered to her that she would foot the bill. Fed up with his manipulative behavior, she defiantly refused. Although she was seething inside, she didn’t want to cause a scene in front of his friends. Instead, she paid for her own meal and quietly left the restaurant.
Upon returning home, her fiancé called and texted her, wondering where she had disappeared to. She responded, explaining her dissatisfaction with how he had put her in an uncomfortable position and essentially tricked her into paying for his friends’ meals. She stood her ground by refusing to engage further with him.
This incident led to a heated argument between the couple. Her fiancé resorted to name-calling, accusing her of being selfish, irrational, and childish for leaving him stuck with a bill he couldn’t pay without seeking help from his brother. His friends remained silent throughout the ordeal, but her fiancé claimed they were disappointed in her behavior and advising him to reconsider the type of woman he would marry.
This woman’s story serves as a testament to the importance of standing up for oneself and not allowing others to take advantage of generosity. Relationships should be built on mutual respect and equality, rather than using financial differences to manipulate and control.
