When we are in a relationship with someone, we want to do what we can to trust them in all matters. This includes money matters, but not everybody is worthy of such trust.
A woman discovered this when she was still dating her boyfriend and after a few months, she noticed a pattern that was taking place every time they went out to eat. They would go out to a planned meal but her boyfriend would forget his credit card.
It was a frustrating situation but she didn’t know quite how to handle it. That is when she went to Reddit to try to get some justification for her feelings or perhaps a readjustment.
I have been dating my boyfriend, who is 36 years old, for 9 months. He has two little children who love going out to eat. We go out once a week and each time he happens to forget his credit card to make a payment. I’d obviously end up paying since we had the kids with us. But honestly, it left me broke this month and the month before.
I just received my payment for my second job, which is part-time. We agreed to go out together with the kids and I even sent him a text reminding him not to forget his credit card. He laughed it off.
At the restaurant, we ordered dinner and he let the kids order lots of new stuff on the menu which was quite expensive. Before we started eating, I mentioned his credit card just to make sure he didn’t forget it. He looked at me shocked and then started searching his pockets for a while. He then looked at me in a sorry way and said, “Guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans that I thought I was going to wear,” then asked me to foot the bill “just this time.” The food was on the table but I didn’t even get a bite. I grabbed my stuff and got up. He freaked out, asking where I was going. I told him I wouldn’t be paying “this time AGAIN” and to enjoy his dinner with the kids. Then I walked out.
He called me later and absolutely lost it on me. He said that he couldn’t believe I’d walk and leave him and the kids in this situation. I said I wasn’t going to pay for him and the kids’ food every single time! It’s unfair! He said he forgot, FORGOT (he yelled like that) and that I did not show sympathy for him and the kids and he had to cancel and go home with the kids hungry since he couldn’t pay right there and then. We got into an argument and he’s been mad at me about it since then, saying things like how he needs to take a look at how I’m treating the kids specifically and how I was willing to let them go hungry with my selfishness.
