Hereโs what the woman has to say to the cheated wives:
โMost women would describe me as a wretched person, a destroyer of marriages, but I believe I am a kind of โband-aidโ for their relationships.
If your husband is wounded, I am just a temporary plaster that helps him. I have been seeing โBig Bearโ for seven years.
He is a successful surgeon, married for 11 years, living in a villa in Chicago with his wife and two children.
โBig Bearโ also bought me an apartment just three kilometers away from his home. I have never seen myself as โthe other woman,โ especially since the relationship is so long-lasting. But I have the gift of turning lemons into lemonade.

So, I thought of helping married women who want to understand why their husbands cheat on them. Believe it or not, itโs about more than just sex.
Men want their wives to be mothers, friends, and therapists to them. Be the woman he fell in love with before the wedding, the woman he truly fell for!
โBig Bearโsโ wife is an amazing mother to her children, but she is a friend, a therapist, and a terrible โmotherโ to her husband. Believe it or not, most of the time I spend with โBig Bearโ is not about sex.
We listen to jazz, drink wine, and discuss the news. I cherish every second spent with โBig Bear,โ knowing that I will disappear when his wife decides to change.
When he leaves me, I will come across another โwoundedโ man who needs a temporary band-aid.
The best way to make women like me disappear is to consider my advice.
But one more thing: the advice applies only if your husband married you because he loves you.
Itโs important to know why he chose to marry you,โ the mistress writes in the open letter she published on the internet!โ




