A Reddit user reached out to the community for advice on whether she was being unreasonable in giving her husband an ultimatum. The woman, who is six months pregnant, shared that her husband has an unusually close relationship with his mother, to the point where he spends more time with her than with his own wife.
The breaking point came when the wife asked her husband to be more present during her pregnancy, only to be met with the response that his mother comes before her. Shocked by his words, she watched him leave to go to his mother’s house while she took care of everything on her own. To add insult to injury, her mother-in-law called her to gloat about her “win” while her husband laughed in the background.
As time went on, the husband continued to prioritize his mother over his wife. On their anniversary, instead of spending time with her, he went to his mother’s house. Frustrated and hurt, the wife confronted him, suggesting that he might as well be in a relationship with his mother. This led to text messages from both her husband and mother-in-law, accusing her of being bitter and jealous.
Feeling unsupported and disrespected, the wife turned to the Reddit community for validation. The overwhelming response she received confirmed that she wasn’t in the wrong. Realizing that her mother-in-law would never change, she considered divorce, but not before giving her husband one last chance.
She told her husband that she would divorce him if he didn’t stop prioritizing his mother. His emotional response and promise to change gave her hope, but she knew that a conversation with her mother-in-law was necessary. However, her mother-in-law made it clear that she saw the situation as a competition and refused to back down.
The wife clarified that it wasn’t about winning or losing, but about setting boundaries. She made it clear to her mother-in-law that if she continued to behave the way she did, she would not have access to her grandchild. Fortunately, the husband has since stepped up and made efforts to prioritize his wife and their future child.
This situation highlights the importance of open communication and setting healthy boundaries within a marriage. While it may be normal to have a close relationship with one’s parents, it should not come at the expense of neglecting one’s spouse. The wife’s ultimatum was a last resort to protect her own well-being and the future of their family.
