I always thought I had a good handle on being a dad. Not a perfect one, but present, reliable. Liana was born during a stormy August night, and it feels like Iโve been running through thunderstorms ever since. Not bad onesโjust the kind that remind you lifeโs rarely calm. Her mother, Dana, left when Liana was six. Said she needed to “find herself.” I didnโt chase her. Maybe I shouldโve, but I was too busy learning how to braid hair and shop for school supplies that didnโt scream โmy dad picked this out.โ
Now Lianaโs twelve. Still a kid, but also not. Her voice is changingโmore certain, less sing-songy. Sheโs into true crime podcasts and always knows which of her classmates are lying about something. Sheโs good at reading people. She gets that from her mom.
That night, she couldnโt keep anything down. It started with her skipping dinner, which never happens. By bedtime, she was curled on the bathroom tile, shivering despite the blanket and holding that worn blue pillow sheโs had since kindergarten. The one she named โOceanโ because of its color, even though now itโs more gray than blue.
I hovered in the hallway at first. Iโd already brought her water and some crackers, set up the trash can beside her. I figured maybe she wanted spaceโsheโs been asking for more of that lately, closing her door more often, keeping secrets I pretend not to notice. But when I leaned in and saw her trembling, eyes half-closed and skin pale like candle wax, something pulled me in.
I grabbed the couch pillow, didnโt even bother changing out of my pajama pants, and laid down next to her. No hesitation. I pulled part of her blanket over us and rested my arm lightly over her shoulder.
She didnโt say much. Just turned her face toward me and murmured, โThanks for staying.โ
I said, โAlways,โ and meant it with every cell in my body.
Time moved slow. The floor was unforgiving, pressing into my hip and shoulder, but I didnโt care. I could hear the hallway clock ticking in the silence. I could feel how fast time was moving even though the moment itself felt frozen. Sheโs growing up too fast, I thought. There wonโt be many more nights like this. Soon enough, sheโll push me away for good, not just in little ways. Sheโll be out with friends or tucked away in her room with her music and texts and secrets. Iโll be on the outside again.
Around 3 a.m., just when I thought sheโd finally dozed off, she whispered something so faint I wasnโt sure I caught it.
โDadโฆ I have to tell you something. Mom called.โ
I blinked.
She hadnโt mentioned Dana in months. Not since Christmas, when we got a generic card with no return address and a barely-legible signature.
Before I could ask anything, Liana added, โShe said she wants to talk. But only to me.โ
I felt something hard and cold settle in my chest. Not jealousy. Not anger, exactly. Justโฆ that old ache Iโd nearly forgotten.
โWhat did she say?โ I asked carefully, trying to keep my voice even.
โShe just asked how Iโve been. Said sheโs been thinking about me a lot. And that she wants to call again. But she said not to tell you. That itโd make things harder.โ
I swallowed. Dana had a way of making everything harder, whether she meant to or not. But this wasnโt about her. It was about Liana. And I didnโt want her to feel like she had to keep secrets just to keep the peace.
โYou can talk to her,โ I said. โI wonโt stop you.โ
Liana turned her head slightly, her eyes glinting in the dark. โYouโre not mad?โ
โSweetheart, of course Iโm not mad. Sheโs still your mom.โ
โBut she left.โ
โYeah,โ I sighed. โShe did. But that doesnโt mean you canโt still love her, or want to talk to her. Thatโs okay. Really.โ
She didnโt say anything for a while, and I figured sheโd fallen asleep. I was just about to close my eyes when she spoke again.
โShe said she might want to visit.โ
My body tensed without meaning to. That was the line we hadnโt crossed. Dana hadnโt seen Liana in nearly two years, not since she moved to Arizona with some guy who sold used motorcycles.
โDid she say when?โ
โShe said maybe next month. She asked if I wanted to.โ
โAnd do you?โ
Liana hesitated. โI donโt know. I miss her. But I donโt really remember what sheโs like anymore. I remember the things she said, how she used to sing in the car, but I donโt know her now. What if I see her and it just feels weird?โ
I exhaled slowly. โThen it feels weird. And you can come right back to me. No judgment.โ
She rolled over then, inching a little closer. โWould you come with me? If I said I wanted to see her?โ
My throat tightened. โYeah. Iโd come.โ
She didnโt answer, but she pressed her forehead into my shoulder, and that was enough.
Two weeks later, Dana flew in. We met at a public park, just me, Liana, and her. I sat on a bench at a respectful distance while the two of them walked slow loops under the trees. I watched Liana talk with big hand gestures, saw Dana nod, laugh, touch her arm. When they sat on a picnic table, Liana looked over at me. Just a glance. But it said everything. She wasnโt lost. She wasnโt alone. She was just growing. And I was still her home base, her steady place.
Later, after Dana left, Liana and I got ice cream even though it was cold out.
โShe smells the same,โ she said between bites. โLike jasmine and coffee.โ
โYou remember that?โ
โYeah. But sheโs different too. Older. Quieter. I think I like her, but I donโt know if I trust her yet.โ
โThatโs okay,โ I said. โYou donโt have to know everything right away.โ
She smiled. โThanks for coming.โ
โAlways.โ
Now when she talks to her mom, she does it from her room, but she always gives me a quick summary after. No secrets. No confusion. Just a kid trying to piece together two versions of love.
That night on the bathroom floor taught me something I didnโt know I needed to learnโsometimes the most important thing you can do for someone is just lie down beside them. Be where they are. No lectures. No shields. Just presence.
So if youโve ever wondered how to stay connected to your kid, even as they start pulling awayโmaybe the answer is simple.
Just donโt move. Not when they need you close.
Would you lay down on the bathroom floor too?
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