When I was little, Grandma’s house was my safe place. I’d burst through the door, running straight into her arms, knowing she’d catch me every time. She smelled like warm cinnamon and fabric softener, and her hugs could fix anything—a scraped knee, a bad day, even my teenage heartbreaks.

But now, things are different.

When I walked through that same door today, she was the one reaching for me. Her arms, once so strong, now trembled slightly as I wrapped mine around her. Her body felt smaller, lighter, like if I let go, she might just float away.

“Look at you, all grown up,” she said with a smile, but there was something else in her eyes. A flicker of recognition mixed with something fragile—like she knew time was slipping away faster than either of us wanted to admit.

I held onto her a little tighter, steadying her as she shuffled toward her chair.

She used to be the one holding me up.

And now, I was the one trying to hold her together.

The house was still the same—a little worn around the edges, but filled with memories. The smell of baked bread lingered in the air, a scent that brought comfort and sadness in equal measure. The old rocking chair by the window where I had spent hours as a child, listening to her stories, was now empty, the fabric faded.

Grandma settled into her chair, her legs tucked beneath her blanket. I sat across from her, taking a deep breath as I looked at her.

“How’s everything?” I asked, trying to keep my voice steady.

She gave me a small smile, her hand trembling as she adjusted her glasses. “Oh, you know. Same old, same old. Nothing much changes, sweetheart.”

I knew better. Things had changed. They had been changing for a while now. Her memory wasn’t what it used to be. Some days, she would forget simple things, like where she had left her glasses or what she had for breakfast. Other days, she’d remember events from years ago as if they had just happened. It was disorienting, both for her and for me.

“I brought you your favorite, Grandma,” I said, pulling the freshly baked loaf of cinnamon bread from my bag.

Her eyes lit up for a brief moment, and I saw that spark of joy I’d always loved. “You know I can never say no to your bread. Just like when you were little.” She chuckled softly, and I could feel the weight of the years pressing down on both of us.

“Do you want me to help you with anything?” I asked, reaching for the knife to slice the bread.

Grandma waved her hand weakly. “No, no. I can manage. I’ve been doing it for years.”

But I knew she couldn’t. She had been doing it for years, yes, but now it was me who was doing most of the work, without her asking. I wasn’t sure how to navigate this shift—the way the roles had reversed so slowly over time until it was impossible to ignore.

The afternoon passed in a blur of quiet conversation and gentle laughter. Grandma told me stories about the family—about my parents when they were my age, about my cousins, and about the house she had once known as a young girl. It was the same routine we had shared for years, but now, her words felt different. More fragile. More precious.

As the sun began to set, casting long shadows across the room, I stood up to leave. I knew she hated to see me go, just as much as I hated to leave her, but I also knew I needed to be strong.

“I’ll be back tomorrow, Grandma,” I said, pressing a kiss to her cheek.

She nodded slowly, her hand reaching out to hold mine. “You don’t have to leave, you know. I’m fine. I can take care of myself.”

But the truth was, she couldn’t anymore. And I couldn’t ignore it.

“I know,” I whispered, squeezing her hand. “But I’ll always be here. I promise.”

She looked up at me, her eyes filled with a mixture of love and regret. “You’ve always been my strength, my dear. I just wish I could still be yours.”

It was a few weeks later when I noticed it. A small, subtle change in Grandma. At first, I thought it was just another day when she was a little off—forgetting a name, losing track of time. But then the changes became more pronounced. She was sleeping more. She had trouble standing up without my help. Her hands shook more often. And one evening, as I helped her into bed, I realized something that made my heart sink.

She wasn’t just getting older.

She was fading.

I called my mom the next day, explaining the situation. I could hear the concern in her voice, but I also knew that none of us were prepared for what was happening. The doctor confirmed my fears: Grandma was showing signs of advanced Alzheimer’s. It had been gradual, so slow that we hadn’t noticed the depth of it until it was undeniable.

The news hit me like a wave. I had always thought of Grandma as invincible—strong, steady, always there for me. The woman who had held me when I was scared, who had listened to my problems without judgment, was now someone I had to hold together.

And as difficult as it was to face, I knew I couldn’t do this alone.

Months passed, and the changes became harder to ignore. I moved in with Grandma to help care for her, trying to keep her comfortable and surrounded by love. But there were days when she didn’t recognize me, and it broke my heart each time. The woman who had once been my safe place was now lost in a world of confusion, sometimes thinking I was someone else, sometimes forgetting my name entirely.

But in those moments, I would hold her hand, just like she had done for me all those years ago, and I would remind her of the things we shared—the love, the memories, the strength that had always bound us.

One evening, as we sat together in her favorite chair, Grandma looked at me, her eyes clear for the first time in days.

“You’ve always been my strength, sweetheart,” she said softly, her voice stronger than it had been in weeks. “But now, it’s my turn to let you be the one holding me up.”

Tears welled in my eyes as I kissed her forehead, whispering, “I’ll always be here, Grandma. Just like you were for me.”

Grandma passed away a few months later, but I never stopped feeling her presence in my life. The love she gave me, the lessons she taught me, and the strength she instilled in me would always be with me, even in her absence.

She had always been my safe place. And now, I had become hers.

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