Life certainly has its unexpected twists, and one of our readers experienced a moment she never saw coming. While applying makeup in the bathroom, her husband decided to pull a prank. But instead of finding it funny, she found it deeply hurtful. Now, she’s left questioning their relationship and wondering why he would do something so cruel. She reached out to us for advice.
Unexpected and Cruel
Hi,
The other day, I was in the bathroom, just doing my makeup, when my husband came in looking for his electric razor. He found it, but instead of using it on himself, he turned it on and ran it through my hair. A huge chunk of my hair fell to the floor, and I was so stunned that I nearly fainted. The worst part? Knowing that it’s going to take years for my hair to grow back to the way it was before.
I yelled, “Are you crazy? What are you doing?” He just started laughing and said, “Relax, it’s just a prank! Your hair will grow back, no big deal.” But I couldn’t stop crying, staring at the spot he shaved off. He kept watching me, barely able to keep himself from laughing even more. That same day, I packed my bags and left. Now I’m seriously considering getting a divorce because his behavior is really concerning. We’ve been together for three years, and up until now, our relationship has been great with no major issues. I’ve never seen this twisted side of him before. But then again, maybe I overreacted? It’s just hair after all.
Seeking Solutions
Thank you for reaching out! Let’s help you navigate this situation with some advice that might bring clarity.
Testing Your Limits
Your husband might be trying to see how far he can go with what you’ll accept. By pulling this “prank,” he could be gauging your reaction. If you let it slide without showing that it’s unacceptable, he may continue to push boundaries, gradually escalating his behavior. The most effective way to handle this is to communicate that you won’t tolerate such actions, especially from someone who is supposed to protect and support you as a partner.
Consider Reporting Him
Cutting someone’s hair without their consent is considered assault and bodily harm. If you choose to, you can file a report with the police. This isn’t just about overstepping personal boundaries—it’s a serious violation. The impact of cutting someone’s hair without their consent isn’t only physical; it can lead to significant emotional and psychological distress.
Getting a Divorce
It’s unlikely you’ll ever feel completely comfortable around him again. You might find yourself constantly on edge, worried about what he might do next without warning. If he’s already ignoring your feelings now, chances are he won’t start caring about them in the future. Unfortunately, some people do change after marriage, and this could be your first glimpse of your husband’s darker side. The troubling part is that this may just be the beginning—you never know what else he will come up with.
Take Some Time Apart and Seek Therapy
If divorce isn’t your immediate choice, consider separating for a while. You must insist he sees a therapist. The way he “pranked” you was not only cruel but also abusive. Something that shifted his perception of you might have happened recently—perhaps a promotion or a compliment from someone else that sparked his resentment. However, this doesn’t justify his actions. Suppose you’re sure that nothing specific could have triggered this behavior. In that case, it might be wise to suggest he checks in with a professional about his mental health or other potential health issues.
It’s rare to find a couple that hasn’t faced some bumps in their relationship. Navigating these challenges can be a part of growing stronger together, but communication, respect, and understanding should always be at the core. Take the time you need to make the best decision for yourself, and thank you for sharing your story with us.
