When we are in a relationship with someone, we want to be able to trust them, in all aspects including money matters. Unfortunately, not everyone proves to be worthy of such trust.
A woman realized this when she was dating her boyfriend. After a few months, she noticed a pattern emerging during their meals out. They’d plan a meal, but then her boyfriend would suddenly forget his credit card.
This situation proved quite frustrating for her, and she didn’t know how to handle it. Seeking advice, she turned to Reddit to get some clarity on her feelings or possibly a readjustment.
“I have been dating my boyfriend, who’s 36, for 9 months. He has two little children who love going out to eat. We go out once a week, and each time he happens to forget his credit card to make a payment. I’d obviously end up paying since we had the kids with us, but honestly, it left me broke this month and the month before.”
“I just received my payment for my second job, which is part-time. We agreed to go out together with the kids, and I even sent him a text reminding him not to forget his credit card. He laughed it off.”
“At the restaurant, we ordered dinner, and he let the kids order lots of new stuff from the menu, which was expensive. Before we started eating, I mentioned his credit card to make sure he hadn’t forgotten it. He looked at me, surprised, and then started searching his pockets for a while. He then looked at me apologetically and said, ‘Guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans that I thought I was going to wear,’ and asked me to foot the bill ‘just this time.’ The food was on the table, but I didn’t even take a bite. I grabbed my stuff and got up. He panicked and asked where I was going. I told him I wouldn’t be paying ‘this time AGAIN’ and told him to enjoy his dinner with the kids. Then I walked out.”
“He called me later and absolutely lost it on me. He said he couldn’t believe I’d walk out and leave him and the kids in that position. I told him I wasn’t going to pay for him and the kids’ food every single time. It’s unfair! He said he forgot, FORGOT (he yelled like that) and that I didn’t show any sympathy for him and the kids. He had to cancel and go home with the kids hungry since he couldn’t pay right there and then. We argued, and he’s been mad at me since then, saying things like he needs to reconsider how I’m treating the kids specifically, and how selfish I was to let them go hungry.”
