Sean, 36, poured his heart out to us in a letter filled with sorrow and regret. He admitted to ruining his family’s happiness by being unfaithful to his wife. Although it seemed like she forgave him over time, reality turned out to be far more complicated.
Sean Had an Affair and Came Clean to His Wife
My wife Rosa and I have been married for 15 blissful years. We’ve faced numerous life challenges together and always made it through with our bond stronger than ever. We weren’t just married; we were kindred spirits, and our marriage was built on trust and mutual respect. We never lied to each other or strayed. But recently, everything changed, and our family is now disintegrating at lightning speed.
I committed a terrible act of infidelity with one of my clients. I can’t quite explain why; it felt like my body was on autopilot. The guilt became unbearable quickly. I ended the affair and severed all professional ties with her, handing her contract to a coworker. I’ve had no contact with her since. I also confessed my wrongdoing to my wife and started individual therapy.
Sean Was Prepared for an Emotional Reaction from His Wife
At first, my wife was devastated and incredibly angry. I was deeply concerned about her mental well-being. Although I expected some drama, her level of depression was unprecedented. I pleaded with her not to file for divorce.
I suggested couples counseling, therapy, and even giving her the freedom to see other men, but she wasn’t interested. She asked for space and time to process her pain. She insisted I move out and wait for her to decide our future.
I packed my things and moved in with my parents. I called her daily, and each time she sounded hurt and frustrated. She repeatedly asked for more space, which I respected.
Then, Sean’s Wife’s Behavior Changed Completely
Three weeks after my confession, my wife’s behavior abruptly changed. She called me and asked me to move back home. She expressed a desire to work things out, and instantly became the ideal wife, doing everything to please me. She cooked my favorite meals, wrote loving notes, and even bought new clothes to look her best for me. Though her reactions were subdued, she constantly reassured me of her love.
She rarely brought up my infidelity, and I chose not to either. I was taken aback by her sudden change but imagined she had decided not to let a short-term affair ruin our marriage.
However, one aspect puzzled me: her frequent visits to a gynecologist. These visits started not long after my confession and happened almost weekly. It didn’t seem like routine checkups.
Sean Confronted His Wife About Her Frequent Doctor Visits
I was worried she might have serious health issues. She had some reproductive problems, which is why we didn’t have children—or so I thought.
When I asked about her health and the doctor visits, she smiled and revealed she had no health problems. She had been consulting about her pregnancy. I was initially elated at the thought of having a baby.
But then she dropped a bombshell: the baby wasn’t mine. She admitted to having an affair with another man and got pregnant by him. My world turned upside down.
She said this was poetic justice, and each of us got what we deserved. She suggested staying together and even offered me the chance to adopt the baby if I wished, explaining that she was no longer in contact with the biological father who wouldn’t be happy about the pregnancy.
