It all started with what seemed like a regular financial discussion, but oh, did it spiral into chaos! Our protagonist, a woman (let’s call her OP for Original Poster), is now questioning her entire five-year relationship after an explosive dispute with her fiancé.
You see, OP reached out for some advice from the internet’s favorite jury: Reddit. Posting in the ‘Am I The A*****e’ thread, she shared the rather spectacular details of the drama that unfolded.
So, here’s the tea: OP, a sprightly 32-year-old, recently got engaged to her 35-year-old partner after five years of presumably blissful togetherness. With wedding bells set for May 2025, everything was looking peachy. But then, life threw a curveball.
Not long after their engagement, OP’s grandmother passed away. Now, OP’s grandparents were quite the successful duo, holding high-paying jobs and amassing a tidy fortune over their lifetimes. And wouldn’t you know it, OP inherited a “hugely generous” sum of money from her grandmother. Cue the drama!
Eager to share the news, OP told her fiancé. His reaction? Over-the-top joy, much more than she anticipated. She shrugged it off until she overheard him later, chatting with his friends while gaming, gushing about how he could finally pay off his credit card debt and plan a boys’ holiday with her grandmother’s money. Yikes!
“What money?” OP demanded, storming into the room. Her fiancé looked at her as if she had two heads and casually replied, “From your nan, babe.” Let’s just say OP was not amused.
She exploded (understandably) and told him there was no way he’d be spending her inheritance without her blessing, especially not on a holiday with his pals. “It’s not your money to have, it’s written to me from MY nana, it’s not for you,” she declared.
What followed was a full-blown shouting match. Finishing his game, the fiancé stomped into the kitchen, scolding OP for making a scene in front of his friends. He argued that once they were married, her money would also be his, and it was selfish of her to deny his holiday dreams.
Fed up with the nonsense, OP grabbed her things and left, seeking refuge at a friend’s house. Was she being unreasonable? She asked her fellow Redditors for their opinions.
The responses came in like a tidal wave, with users offering an outpouring of empathy and some serious side-eye aimed at the fiancé.
“Ok so he has shown you that he thinks of you as a burden and is planning on spending money that isn’t actually his. And he’s screaming at you because you won’t fall in with his plans. You’re nuts if you actually marry him,” one person wrote, summing up the general sentiment.
Another chimed in with: “You really want to marry this guy? There are 2 problems: 1. He assumed he’s entitled to the money. 2. He assumed he can spend it on a discretionary item that does not include you. Pt 2 is the bigger problem.”
One more user added: “Stop the wedding. Do not marry this guy. First, … wow he’s got credit card debt he’s never paid off? Living beyond his means is a HABIT. Second … what’s his is his, and what’s yours is his? Oh honey NO. Third … the rage? entitlement and DARVO … projecting you would be ‘the burden’ on him in the relationship? This man exhibits all the classic Narcissist tells.”
And they hit the nail on the head with this gem: “Your grandparents’ last gift to you wasn’t just the money, but the wisdom of who this guy really is underneath. No character, abusive, entitled, parasitic. Run.”
So there you have it, folks. What’s the verdict? Should OP call off the wedding and drop the mic on this entitled fiancé? We’d love to hear your thoughts!
