My 22-Year-Old Son Threatens to Leave the House and Go Live With My Ex-Husband Unless I Buy Him a Car

My son Michael turned 22 just last month, and I thought we had left the difficult teenage years behind us. Little did I know, a storm was brewing under our roof.

It all started one afternoon when I was making lunch in the kitchen. Michael stormed in, his face tight with frustration.

โ€œMom, we need to talk,โ€ he said, his voice unusually serious.

I turned to him and responded, โ€œSure, whatโ€™s on your mind, honey?โ€

He leaned against the counter, arms crossed. โ€œI need a car.โ€

I was taken aback. โ€œA car? What happened to your part-time job? You were saving up for one.โ€

Michael sighed in exasperation. โ€œI know, but saving is taking forever, and I really need it now.โ€

I frowned and wiped my hands on a kitchen towel. โ€œMichael, cars are expensive. You know that. Besides, you have a job and can save up a bit more.โ€

He interrupted, โ€œNo, Mom, I canโ€™t wait anymore. All my friends have cars, and Iโ€™m tired of depending on you or taking the bus. I need my freedom.โ€

Feeling frustrated, I said, โ€œMichael, I understand you, but we canโ€™t just afford to buy you a car suddenly. Itโ€™s not that simple.โ€

He clenched his jaw, his eyes narrowing. โ€œWell, maybe Iโ€™ll just go live with Dad then. Heโ€™ll buy me a car.โ€

Those words hit me like a ton of bricks.

David, my ex-husband, always tried to buy Michaelโ€™s affection instead of being a responsible parent. I couldnโ€™t believe Michael would even suggest such a thing.

โ€œMichael, you canโ€™t just threaten to leave because youโ€™re not getting what you want,โ€ I said, trying to keep my voice calm.

โ€œWhy not? Dad would be happy to have me. He always spoils me,โ€ he retorted defiantly.

I took a deep breath and tried to gather my thoughts, โ€œThis isnโ€™t about your dad. Itโ€™s about responsibility. Youโ€™re an adult now, and part of being an adult is making responsible decisions.โ€

He rolled his eyes, โ€œYeah, responsible decisions like being the only one among my friends without a car.โ€

Our conversation ended there, but the tension lingered. I couldnโ€™t shake the disappointment and worry I felt.

The days that followed were filled with silence and tension between Michael and me. Every attempt to discuss the car led to another argument.

One evening, while we were having dinner, I decided to try again.

โ€œMichael, can we talk about the car situation again?โ€ I asked cautiously.

He sighed, poking at his food, โ€œWhatโ€™s there to talk about, Mom? You still wonโ€™t buy me one.โ€

โ€œItโ€™s not just about buying you a car, Michael. Itโ€™s about how youโ€™re handling this situation,โ€ I explained, trying to keep my voice steady.

He looked up defensively, โ€œWhat do you mean?โ€

โ€œI mean, threatening to leave if you donโ€™t get what you want is not how adults handle things. Itโ€™s unfair to manipulate me like that,โ€ I said, feeling both frustrated and sad.

He shrugged, โ€œIโ€™m just tired of waiting. Dad would understand.โ€

โ€œDad isnโ€™t here, Michael. And buying you a car wonโ€™t solve everything. What about the expenses that come with it? Insurance, maintenanceโ€ฆโ€ I trailed off, hoping he would understand.

Michael remained silent for a moment before pushing his plate away, โ€œForget it, Mom. Youโ€™ll never understand.โ€

As he left the table, I felt a pang of guilt, questioning if I was being too harsh or failing as a parent.

Days turned into weeks, and the tension in the house grew. Michael became more distant, spending most of his time out with friends or locked up in his room.

One Saturday morning, I found a note on the kitchen counter:

โ€œMom, Iโ€™m going to stay with Dad for a while. I canโ€™t stand being here anymore. Maybe heโ€™ll understand me better.โ€

My heart sank as I read those words. I knew this day might come, but I never thought it would happen like this.

I immediately dialed Michaelโ€™s number, but it went straight to voicemail. Panic set in as I tried to remember where David lived. We hadnโ€™t been in touch for years after our divorce.

Frantically, I found Davidโ€™s number and dialed it, hoping he would answer.

โ€œHello?โ€ David sounded surprised on the other end.

โ€œDavid, itโ€™s Sarah. I need to know if Michael is with you,โ€ I said, trying to keep my voice steady despite my panic.

There was a moment of silence before he replied.

โ€œSarah, whatโ€™s going on? Michael isnโ€™t here.โ€

My heart sank even further. โ€œHe left a note saying heโ€™s coming to stay with you. Heโ€™s upset because I wonโ€™t buy him a car.โ€

David let out a frustrated sigh, โ€œI had a feeling something like this might happen. Look, Iโ€™ll talk to him if he shows up, but he canโ€™t just run away from his problems.โ€

Grateful, I thanked him and hung up. Days passed with no word from Michael. I tried calling and texting him, but there was no response. I couldnโ€™t focus on anything, worried about him constantly.

Then, one evening, there was a knock at the door. My heart leaped into my throat as I rushed to answer it. It was Michael, looking tired and defeated, with a duffle bag slung over his shoulder.

โ€œMom, can we talk?โ€ he asked softly.

Relief washed over me as I pulled him into a hug, โ€œOf course, come in.โ€

We sat in the living room, and Michael began to speak, his voice shaky, โ€œIโ€™m sorry, Mom. I was being stupid.โ€ I squeezed his hand gently, โ€œItโ€™s okay, Michael. Iโ€™m just glad youโ€™re back.โ€

He looked down, avoiding my gaze, โ€œI realize now that running away wasnโ€™t the solution. Dad didnโ€™t even understand why I was there.โ€ I nodded, feeling both sadness and relief, โ€œIโ€™m just glad youโ€™re safe. But we need to talk about what happened.โ€

We sat down and had a long talk about responsibility, communication, and the challenges of adulthood. It wasnโ€™t easy, but it was necessary. Michael understood that owning a car came with responsibilities, and I realized that open communication is crucial, even when things get tough.

Since then, we’ve worked on rebuilding our relationship, stronger than before, knowing that weโ€™ll face any challenges together.