My Fiance Wants Me to Pay for His Friends’ Meals

I recently came across a post on Reddit where a woman shared her frustrating experience with her fiance. She revealed that her fiance had been mocking her and pressuring her to pay for his meals and those of his friends. What made this situation even more infuriating was the fact that she had received a 30% raise on her salary. Her fiance used this as an excuse to insist that she foot the bill, claiming that her increased income was somehow unfair.

It wasn’t just a one-time occurrence. The woman admitted that her fiance had tricked her into paying for meals multiple times before. Afraid of confrontation and not wanting to cause a scene in public, she reluctantly complied each time. However, she reached her breaking point and decided to take a stand.

One evening, her fiance invited her to join him and his buddies for dinner. Determined not to be taken advantage of again, she made it clear from the start that she would not be paying for their food. Her fiance reassured her, saying he had it covered. But as they sat in the middle of their meal, he whispered to her that she would be paying once again. This time, she refused to give in.

Fuming with anger, she waited until the bills arrived. They were already split, so she paid only for her own portion. Then, without causing a scene, she excused herself to the restroom and discreetly slipped out of the restaurant. She got into her car and drove home, leaving her fiance to deal with the bill he could not afford to pay without asking for help from his brother.

As expected, her fiance bombarded her with calls and texts, demanding to know where she was. Calmly, she explained the situation and expressed her disappointment in how he had manipulated her. She stood her ground and refused to engage further in the argument.

Unfortunately, their disagreement escalated into a heated argument when he arrived at their home. He called her selfish, irrational, a cheapskate, and childish for leaving him with a bill he couldn’t afford. Feeling attacked, she defended herself, but it only led to more tension between them. He eventually stormed out, leaving her to reflect on the type of woman he would be marrying.

This woman’s story highlights the importance of standing up for oneself and not allowing others to take advantage of our generosity. It is crucial to set boundaries in relationships and to communicate openly and honestly about financial expectations. No one should ever feel pressured or mocked for their success or financial status.

Remember, it’s essential to consider the values and behavior of our partners before committing to a lifelong partnership. Marriage is built on trust, respect, and equality, and it’s crucial to ensure that these foundations are solid before saying “I do.”